If you are going through a divorce, you may already know you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse must divide marital assets. As parents, you also must work out a custody arrangement. If you intend to share custody of your kids with your ex-spouse, putting the terms of the custody transfer in your parenting plan may be wise.
Your custody transfer is the meeting you have with your ex-spouse to swap physical custody of the kids when your parenting time begins and concludes. Naturally, if your marriage or divorce were acrimonious, your custody transfer may be a source of contention.
The location of the transfer
Many divorced parents default to their homes for the location of custody transfers. This may not be the right approach, however. By picking a neutral location, you can avoid seeing your ex-spouse in his or her post-divorce home. Your custody transfer spot should also be convenient for both you and your ex to access.
The process of the transfer
Each parent is responsible for preparing the kids for the custody transfer. At the end of your parenting time, you should be certain your kids have everything they need to move to their co-parent’s home. Dressing your kids appropriately and feeding them may also help you minimize conflict with your ex.
The safety of everyone
Sometimes, divorced spouses cannot safely meet with each other to transfer custody. If you fear for your safety or the safety of your children, you may want to hold your transfers in a public space or at a police precinct.
Ultimately, while you undoubtedly have a number of matters to settle in the lead-up to your divorce, addressing the custody transfer is likely to set reasonable expectations for everyone in your family to follow.